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The parent does not allow the child to take identity cards or coupons (season ski passes or amusement park passes, etc.) to the other parent's home from which the child could benefit while being there.

The parent without justifiable reason takes away or prevents the child from using a cell phone that she/he had obtained from the other parent.

The parent interrogates the child and puts the child in a situation in which the child feels uncomfortable with regard to her/his relation with the other parent.

The parent does not pick up the phone or answer messages from his/her own child when the child has attempted to call the parent from the other parent's home.

The parent refuses without justifiable reasons requests by the child to withdraw money from his/her account when the other parent and the child wish to use the money for a reasonable purpose.

The parent denies the child to take things (e.g. favourite toys) to the other parent's home, when the child wishes to do so and there would appear to be no plausible reason for refusing the child's request.

The parent interferes with their child's relationship with a half-sister or with another child whose parents have a friendly relationship with the other parent.

The parent interrupts a telephone conversation of the child with his/her other parent, or forces the child to do it.

The parent has not allowed or has discouraged the child from having any pictures or memorabilia from the other parent in the home, or the child does not dare to have such things.

The parent intercepts and reads private email communication intended for the child or has erased email messages intended for the child from the other parent or other family members before the child has read the message.

The parent attempts to promote dissension and disharmony between siblings in an effort to isolate those siblings who do not support the parent.

The parent refuses the child's request to spend some additional time at the home of the other parent's home who at the time of the child's request is parenting the child for less than 50% of the time.

The parent has made allegations of assault or abuse against his/her own child or has attempted to have police or child welfare protection agencies take action against the child and the parent has not tried to involve the other parent before contacting outside agencies.

The parent has committed acts of vandalism against property belonging to a child.

The parent has impeded the registration or admittance of a child into a school after the child who is above the age of 10 years of age has run away from the parent's home to live with the other parent and wishes to live with that parent.

The parent has during a disagreement with a child threatened the child with eviction from the home or has told the child to go and live with the other parent or threatened to place the child into foster care.

The parent has provably threatened or intimidated a child to make false or misleading statements to the court or other authorities.

The parent has applied penalties to reprimand or punish a child about saying things to others that were truthful which appears to be intended to coerce the child to remain silent on certain matters.

The parent threatens, humiliates, criticizes, lashes, or denigrates the child for spending additional time with the other parent or for the child indicating a preference to spend time or to live with the other parent.

The parent has physically locked a child in a room using a mechanical device or object, with the intent to keep the child from contacting the other parent by phone or from escaping the home to be with the other parent.

The parent threatened to kill, to seriously harm, or to use a weapon or firearm against a child, or the parent has physically or sexually assaulted a child under his/her care, including stepchildren and there is credible evidence or testimony to support this claim.

The parent disproportionately imposes himself/herself upon the other parent and the child during the other parent's personal access time with the child.

The parent has during the time the parties were still cohabiting taken the child away for at least one overnight without advising the other parent where they have gone.

The parent removes - behind the back of the other parent, but noticeable for the child - mutually shared belongings of a common household and transfers them into the own household (e.g. furniture, appliances, pictures, etc.).

The parent does not participate in fetching or returning the child, although the spatial separation of the parents had been largely caused or forced upon by this parent.

The parent intercepts email communication between the other parent and other third parties or has attempted to use these communications in court proceedings or has disclosed these to the children, family members or friends for purposes other than to protect the children from harm.

The parent has send emails or other communication containing false or misleading information to friends or family members of the other parent with the intention to denigrate the other parent.

Other family members of the parent (such as grandparents, aunts or uncles to the child) have physically assaulted or verbally attacked the other parent or are otherwise aggressive against the other parent.

The parent has, or has attempted to have members of his/her own family appointed as supervisors for access to the child by the other parent, contrary to the wishes of the other parent or the child.

The parent threatens the other parent to move with the child to an area that makes it difficult to maintain the existing contact with the child when the other parent does not abide by his/her wishes.

The parent denigrates the other parent in the presence of the child and/or displays aggression against the other parent in front of the child.

The parent makes harassing phone calls to the other parent (late night, multiple hang-ups, drunk, swearing, etc.) in times when the child is with the other parent.

The parent calls for minor incidents or misunderstandings among family members or children the police with the request for intervention in what would appear to be an attempt to embarrass or to create difficulties for the other parent.

The parent throws out or destroys pictures of the other parent or removes pictures of the other parent from photo albums even if they are in the possession of the child.

The parent threatens to call the police and to have the other parent charged with harassment for attempting to call a child in the household even when the child has indicated that he/she wishes to communicate with the other parent or there is no apparent threat to the child.

The child has disclosed to third parties distrust and/or dislike of the parent's extended family members (e.g. grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.) and can provide reasons to support these feelings.

The child has indicated a fear or strong dislike of the parent or the parent's boyfriend/girlfriend and the child can provide reasons which reasonably support these feelings.

The child has run away from the parent or defied the existing parenting arrangements in order to spend time with the other parent or another family member.

The child has disclosed through third parties to have been present while the parent has physically assaulted the other parent.

The child has expressed a desire not to live with the parent or has expressed a desire to spend less time with the parent and can provide reasons to support his/her wishes.

The child has disclosed through third parties that he/she does not like or is fearful of the primary care parent and can provide reasons to support this.

The child has disclosed through third parties a fear of reprisal from the parent or members of that parent's extended family for disclosure of truthful information.

The parent tells their child that the child cannot participate in courses or events because the child would be normally at the other parent's home.

The parent attempts to entice or bribe the child with gifts, toys, etc., to not want to go with the other parent during the other parent's scheduled parenting time with the child.

The parent attempts to coerce a child to return back to the parent's home for frivolous reasons when the child is already at the other parent's home and on the other parent's scheduled access time.

The parent is uncooperative or unresponsive when it comes to working out summer and holiday schedules for the child in a reasonable and timely manner.

The parent attempts to restrict the other parent's parenting time by claiming that the child may catch a communicable disease while with the other parent.

The parent tells the child that she/he cannot accommodate the child's reasonable request to make minor or temporary changes to the parenting arrangements and that only the court can change the parenting schedule.

The parent is uncooperative, creates unnecessary difficulties or delays, or has obstructed the other parent's wishes to be with the child on special family occasions such as birthdays, family weddings, funerals, Mother's day, Father's day, or other similar gatherings.

The parent unilaterally arranges activities for the child for times when the child is supposed to be in the care of the other parent.

The parent fails to deliver the child to a supervised access centre without valid reason to allow the child to see the other parent when this is part of a court order or agreement.

The parent refuses the other parent contact to the child because he/she was behind in child support payments.

The parent has become pregnant by someone outside of the current relationship or has impregnated another person outside the relationship while still in a relationship with a current partner.

The parent does not inform the other parent of important events such as school activities, changed class schedule, etc.

The parent fails to pass on telephone messages to the child from the other parent in a reasonable and timely manner.

The parent insists that the other parent return the child precisely on time while not abiding by these same rules himself/herself or has blown out of proportion the times when the other parent has been late for an exchange.

The parent refuses to disclose important and relevant contact information to the other parent such as home address or phone numbers, making it difficult for others, including the other parent to communicate with him/her.

The parent blocks or refuses communication on issues concerning the children or the family.

The parent excludes the other parent from participating in the child's extra-curricular activities, when this parents would like to volunteer as a driver, trainer or in another role.

The parent refuses the other parent permission to take the child out for lunch at school/day care or tells the child that this is not permitted.

The parent undermines or interferes without reasonable or just cause with the other parent's attempts to obtain medical, dental or school information about the child from competent professionals or agencies.

The parent prevents the other parent or other family members from attending special school events in which the child takes part, such as awards or special presentations

The parent does not supply the school with proper contact information about the other parent and family or gives false or misleading information that would make it more difficult or inconvenient for the school to contact the other parent in the event of an emergency at school.

The parent tries to prevent the child from participating in courses, events or other activities at the other parent's home.

The parent is unwilling to involve a third party to act as a mediator, coordinator, or to have any other professionals involved in helping the parents to communicate and to effectively co-parent the child with the other parent.

The parent disconnects the telephone service to the home and impedes alternative means of communicating (e. g. mobile phone), thus preventing the child's telephone access to the other parent.

The parent unilaterally appoints an agency or private person to provide significant and on-going day care services for the child regardless of the child's wishes or the other parent's availability and willingness to care for the child at that time.

The parent refuses to allow the other parent to have his/her name put on the child's passport or does not provide the child's passport, which the other parent would need for going on vacation together with the child.

The parent has attempted to change the child's religion or indoctrinates the child into a religious group or cult contrary to the wishes of the other parent or the child.

The parent declines to participate in any kind of fair and equal parenting arrangement for the child or to even give such a plan a try on an interim basis, when such an arrangement was proposed by the other parent and the child has also indicated a desire for such an arrangement.

The parent has legally renamed a child, or attempted to rename a child more than 12 months after the birth of the child, contrary to the wishes of the other parent.

The parent refuses to cooperate in modifying a previous court order when the child has started working at a job or has moved to live with the other parent, or for any other reason which would have to consider the child's best interests.

The parent fails to promote a healthy, age-appropriate telephone communication between the child and family members of the other parent or hinders such contacts.

The parent fails to promote healthy, age-appropriate telephone communication between the child and the other parent and takes measures which hinder communication between them.

The parent tells their child in a denigrating or humiliating manner that the child's behaviour reminds her/him of the other parent.

The child displays hostility, aggression or dislike towards the other parent and cannot give consistent or plausible reasons.

The parent encourages the child to defy the other parent's authority or to do things which the other parent has reasonably deemed to be inappropriate for the child, considering the child's age and maturity (Sometimes referred to as permissive parenting).

The parent offers the child money or other conditional financial incentives in an effort to convince the child not to live with the other parent.

The parent instructs a child (mostly siblings) to interfere or prevent another child in the home from exercising his/her wishes to phone or to spent time with the other parent when there is no valid reason to restrict the child rights and wishes in this manner (Sibling Alienation).

The parent has supported the child to terminate contacts or visits with the other parent, because of minor issues or disagreements between the child and the other parent.

The parent encourages a child to collaborate with him/her in making false allegations against the other parent.

The parent tells the child that the other parent does not love him/her or did not want him/her to be born.

A child of the parent has not any more a relationship with the other parent or refuses contact to the other parent and it would appear that the child has been alienated from the other parent.

The parent encourages or assists the child in writing or to deliver a mean spirited letter or drawing to the other parent which would appear to be intended to hurt the other parent or to extort something from the other parent.

The parent has fled with the child from a home which was at the time shared with the other parent of the child and is currently residing somewhere else and this action appears to have been made without reasonable or just cause. This has resulted in a child's relationship with the other parent and/or other family friends being adversely affected.

The parent has been involved in an intimate or live-in relationship with his/her attorney (US) while family court matters were before the court.

The parent has not been truthful or has attempted to misled others about his/her own living arrangements with an intimate partner, by claiming not to be in a living arrangement with an intimate partner when in fact a living arrangement exists.

The parent has obstructed court proceedings by intentionally forging, falsifying or tampering court documents.

The parent accuses the other parent in court documents of activities which are not illegal and it appears that the parent only intended to do harm to the other parent or subvert the administration of Justice.

The parent has refused to grant permission to access police or court reports that the other parent had requested in order to disprove allegations of violence or criminal activity.

The parent has attempted to involve other persons to make false allegations against the other parent that appear intended to infringe upon the rights and freedoms of the child or the other parent.

The parent violates key clauses of a court order or parenting agreement in relation to a child's parenting time, which has resulted in a child's scheduled time with the other parent being interfered with in the absence of compelling evidence to support that this violation would be in the child's best interest.

The parent has made allegations against the other parent involving sexual or physical abuse of the child with no evidence to support those claims.

The parent has attempted to bribe professionals or court officials to support his/her position in matters relating to custody of, or access to the child.

The parent has used denial of access or denial of contact to extort or blackmail the other parent into signing court documents.

The parent forces the child to see the other parent under supervised (court ordered or otherwise) access when there would appear to be highly questionable need for supervision or contrary to the child's age appropriate wishes and preferences.

The parent has made allegations against the other parent of sexual or physical abuse that after police or court investigations turned out as false allegations.

The parent has a documented past history of child neglect that had required intervention of a child welfare protection agency.

The parent has attempted to mislead, lie or to conceal information from an individual or agency conducting a custody and access investigation.

The parent has moved with the child to another country or jurisdiction, prior to a court order authorizing this, which has resulted in a child's relationship with the other parent being interfered with, but the child has since been voluntarily returned by the parent to his/her original jurisdiction and the child has resumed contact with the other parent as per court order or agreement.

The parent has allowed persons to come into contact with a child when there is an agreement in place which specifically prohibits that person from having any contact with that child because of physical or emotional harm caused to the child as a result of that person's previous behaviour and/or actions.

A child of the parent has indicated being physically or sexually assaulted by a step sibling or one of the children of the parent's current boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse and the parent has failed to address the assault to the expectations of the child's family and community.

The child reported being physically or sexually assaulted by the parent's current boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse and the parent continues in a relationship with that person or the parent has failed to address the assault to the expectations of the child's family and community.

The parent has allowed a person with a past history of sexual abuse of children to be in contact with the child and the parent has clearly attempted to conceal this information during a custody and access assessment.

The parent has been under medication and has been administered prescription drugs for depression and/or stress related mental illnesses.

The parent has a past history of being a victim of sexual, physical abuse or neglect as a child or young adult.

The parent has refused to allow paternity testing to be done on a child or upon himself/herself, in order to confirm the identity of the biological father when there may allegations be raised in a family court matter as to the identity of the father of a child.

The parent discloses to the child, information from court documents that are not appropriate for the child's level of maturity and understanding.

The parent exhibits obsessive or compulsive behaviour with regard to the children's needs (such as making the child wear old or second hand clothes when the parent has the money for new clothes, having family members share bath water and other excessive restrictions to the child's use of water, hydro or toiletries in the home).

The parent fosters or contributes to an environment condoning or encouraging a minor child to engage in premature sexual activities that could put the child at risk of becoming pregnant or impregnating another person (permissive parenting).

The parent has caused an automobile accident when the child was present in the vehicle and the consumption of alcohol by the parent appears to have been a factor in the accident.

The parent appears to be unable or unwilling to set reasonable and justifiable limits for a child in relation to sex, drugs, smoking, firearms or other influences generally considered by the community as potentially harmful or having a negative influence on a child.

The parent has been found in the illegal possession of a gun, explosive or other restricted weapon and reasonable evidence would suggest that the parent was intending to use them for unlawful purposes.

The parent has encouraged the child to engage in criminal activities such as shoplifting, theft or fraud or has condoned such criminal activities.

The parent has been found to be intoxicated or under drug influence while caring for a child.

The parent has attempted suicide or has threatened suicide while acting in capacity as parent to a child.

The parent involved the child in excessive consumption of alcohol or drug abuse, or encouraged the child to buy or sell drugs, alcohol or other illegal substances.

The parent without just and reasonable cause refuses to pay her/his fair share of extra expenses relating to the child.

The parent has secretly taken out a life insurance policy on the other parent with the parent being the beneficiary without the knowledge or consent of the other parent.

The parent impedes child health expenses to be reimbursed by the health insurance to the other parent such that the other parent has additional expenses.

The parent transfers money from a child's bank account into another bank account, without agreement of the other parent when both parents previously had joint signing authority of the child's account.

The parent does not inform the other parent about child support or day care expenses which are no longer applicable or refuses to refund the other parent for expenses that were not rightfully owed.

The parent has violated key clauses of a contract which has originally been agreed between the two parents on the basis of a cooperative relationship.

The parent makes false claims for additional expenses relating to the child such as day care, clothing, medical expenses etc., when no such expenses were incurred.

The parent refuses to reimburse or to cooperate to have any government subsidy or tax credit due to the other parent (most applicable when a child may change primary residence).

The parent has refused to allow the other parent to purchase his/her portion of the matrimonial home which has been the home for one or more of the couple's children and has insisted that the home be put up for sale on the open marketplace.

The parent does not contribute to travel expenses for picking up and returning the child, although the spatial separation of the parents had been largely caused or forced upon by this parent.

This parent unlawfully takes or destroys the personal property of the other parent (e.g. computers, personal records, financial records, etc.).

The parent has taken funds that had been set aside by parents for the child's future benefit and spent the money r for his/her own personal use rather than to ensure that the money is kept in trust for the child.

The parent refuses or fails to take appropriate steps to deal with a child's learning difficulty at school although that problem has been brought to the attention of the parent by others.

The parent has not undertaken anything to correct a significant decline (25% decline or more) in the child's performance at school after the parent has moved the child into another school district and also when the child has indicated that he/she is not happy with the new living conditions.

The parent was living in an emergency shelter facility (e.g. women's shelter, homeless shelter, etc.) when there was suitable alternate care available for the child with the other parent or with other family members at the time.

The parent has opposed efforts by the other parent or family members to remove his/her child from being in a foster home or group home facility and to place the child in the care of that willing and capable parent or other willing and capable family members.

The parent refuses or fails to obtain appropriate psychological or therapeutic support for a child when evidence would reasonably suggest that the child is in need of such a support.

The parent has failed to obtain appropriate medical attention for a child who in the opinion of a licensed medical practitioner is in need of medical attention to prevent a health injury.

The parent has left a young child alone in the home without ensuring appropriate supervision of the child.

The parent has left a child who is 12 years of age or younger alone in the home without anyone in the home to supervise and prior to leaving the home the parent deliberately locked up the phones in the home with the purpose of preventing the child from communicating with anyone by telephone in the event of an emergency.

The parent has circumvented the clarification or investigation of drug abusive behaviour of a child.

The parent has placed the child into foster care or into a group home facility for children because of significant behaviour problems with the child when there was suitable alternate care available with r the other parent or other family members at the time.

The parent has placed the child into foster care or into a group home facility for what would appear to be frivolous or vexatious reasons or for what would appear to be part of a plan to punish the child or to keep the child from being with the other parent or family member.

A child of the parent has self-inflicted injuries or mutilation or has attempted suicide while under the care and control of this parent and the child's actions can be seen as being linked to the living conditions with this parent.

The parent changes the child's family doctor, dentist or other medical professional who has been providing care for the child in the past, without justifiable reason and without consulting the other parent first.

The child is defiant of any form of authority or exhibits violence or aggression against the parent.

The parent has arranged to have anti-depressants prescribed by a doctor to the child, without the consent or approval of the other parent.

The parent refuses the other parent to share essential medication for the child or sends the child to the other parent without essential medication.

The child exhibits serious behavioural problems or exhibits violence or aggression against other children.

The parent does not inform the other parent in a timely fashion when the child has suffered a significant injury that requires medical attention or has refused to permit the release of medical information about the child to the other parent.

The parent has had the child undergo a sort of medical procedure, contrary to the wishes of the other parent or the child and there is compelling evidence to support the position that this procedure was unnecessary.

The parent has failed to follow-up with appropriate professional help for a child who has exhibited signs of depression, anxiety or unhealthy attraction or obsession to socially undesirable behaviours and influences such as guns, fires, knives, drugs, drinking, the occult, violent crimes, rapes, torture, killing, etc.

The parent is unable or unwilling to improve a parenting behaviour after he/she has been informed by third parties (court, police, etc.) about the risks originating from this behaviour for the child.